I wanted to really concentrate on the concept of change and what makes some people more successful at change than others.We will all be aware of people, including ourselves that will have set new years resolutions and goals to achieve but how many of us will really be successful?If you think about it.Change is affecting all of us, all of the time.You may be starting a new job, ending a relationship, you may be actively making changes for yourself, starting a new venture, trying a new hobby, or you may be helping someone else go through their own transitional period.And whilst we have a long list of change on our 'change resume' - we may still feel scared, confused, alone when we go through a new period of change.On the other hand, some people go through change intuitively, naturally and calm, they are rational and seem to just flow from one horizon to the next and we call these people 'Change Optimists.'.But before I explain some of the main principles which can help you become more successful to change, I would like to encourage you to write down your own 'Change Resume'.What changes have you been through in your life which at the time seemed really hard but which you came out the other side just fine.You might have split from a partner, lost a loved one, been in debt, graduated, bought a house, had a baby, got a new job.And when you have written your list, take 5 minutes to really pat yourself on the back and give yourself some credit, because we all go through change all the time, but we rarely congratulate ourselves for what we have been able to achieve.Now if you want to get successful at change I would like you to consider these 9 Key Principles.Ariane de Bonvoisin in her book the first 30 days writes how to make change easy.She also has a website here where she explains the principles in more detail.Principle 1 - Change Optimists People who navigate change successfully will be intrinsically positive that they will be a success.Change Optimists see no barriers.Whether the barriers are physical or abstract manifestations of the mind.Principle 2 - The Change Guarantee For me, this is the most important principle to be good at change.Whenever change happens, whether it is thrust upon us or we are actively trying to change to achieve a goal in life.Change Optimists will just go through the transition, trusting that whatever the outcome, it is happening for a reason.So for example, someone that has maybe just lost their job and who is also a change optimist will just accept and trust in the universe that this was supposed to happen.We have all heard the saying every cloud has a silver lining! or as one door closes another one opens.The key is not to always look for new horizons but to see the horizons in front of us with NEW eyes.Principle 3 - The Change Muscle This come back to the list or your change resume that I asked you do a moment a go.You are much stronger, much smarter, and much more intuitive than you have ever been told.You are more resilient and more powerful.Once you truly know and believe this, you will be able to get through any change- even the hardest one you can imagine.You already have a collection of change stored inside you, that you can draw strength from when times seem tough.Principle 4 - Change Demons The term Change Demons refers to all those negative emotions that get in the way when our guard is down.Demons such as 'fear, blame, doubt, shame, guilt' - These are natural feelings that make us human, but by being positive and more conscious to our emotions we can change these demons to emotions such as, 'can do, trust, faith, embrace,' Negative emotions can stall us, making change harder, while the positive ones can help us move through a change in a simpler, quicker, and more conscious way.Principle 5 - The Gift of Acceptance This is simply learning to flow with lifes path, learning to go with the flow, instead of clinging to the old and familiar.People who learn to accept change quickly will get though change much easier and with less resistance.Principle 6 - Change Control Change is going to happen to us all whether we are happy about it or not.But there are certain parts of our human make-up that we can always control.This includes our language, the words we use to describe an experience.Or the questions we ask to empower ourselves.Being able to control our thoughts is one of the most powerful elements to being truly positive and successful.Principle 7 - Connecting with your Spiritual Side People who are naturally good at change also believe that they are part of something far greater than themselves.They are people who can connect to something deep inside, the soul.By connecting to your soul, God or Allah you will be able to make change happen in a much more positive and empowering way.Principle 8 - Your Support Team People that are good at change, will reach out to like minded people, who are going through the same thing, or trying to achieve the same goals.They will connect with people in groups, online, in forums, through social media, through blogs and they will draw strength from getting through change collectively.Successful change optimists will find people with the same beliefs and values, or with people that have the skills and knowledge they need to also be successful.Principle 9 - Taking Action People who successfully navigate change will take action.They will have a plan and know where they want to go.Actions come in many forms.Some are big and obvious; some are so small you may think they are irrelevant.But any good action you take is a choice to move forward.Doing actions little and often will always take you forward positively through change.
Tuesday, August 14, 2012
Are You a Change Optimist?
I wanted to really concentrate on the concept of change and what makes some people more successful at change than others.We will all be aware of people, including ourselves that will have set new years resolutions and goals to achieve but how many of us will really be successful?If you think about it.Change is affecting all of us, all of the time.You may be starting a new job, ending a relationship, you may be actively making changes for yourself, starting a new venture, trying a new hobby, or you may be helping someone else go through their own transitional period.And whilst we have a long list of change on our 'change resume' - we may still feel scared, confused, alone when we go through a new period of change.On the other hand, some people go through change intuitively, naturally and calm, they are rational and seem to just flow from one horizon to the next and we call these people 'Change Optimists.'.But before I explain some of the main principles which can help you become more successful to change, I would like to encourage you to write down your own 'Change Resume'.What changes have you been through in your life which at the time seemed really hard but which you came out the other side just fine.You might have split from a partner, lost a loved one, been in debt, graduated, bought a house, had a baby, got a new job.And when you have written your list, take 5 minutes to really pat yourself on the back and give yourself some credit, because we all go through change all the time, but we rarely congratulate ourselves for what we have been able to achieve.Now if you want to get successful at change I would like you to consider these 9 Key Principles.Ariane de Bonvoisin in her book the first 30 days writes how to make change easy.She also has a website here where she explains the principles in more detail.Principle 1 - Change Optimists People who navigate change successfully will be intrinsically positive that they will be a success.Change Optimists see no barriers.Whether the barriers are physical or abstract manifestations of the mind.Principle 2 - The Change Guarantee For me, this is the most important principle to be good at change.Whenever change happens, whether it is thrust upon us or we are actively trying to change to achieve a goal in life.Change Optimists will just go through the transition, trusting that whatever the outcome, it is happening for a reason.So for example, someone that has maybe just lost their job and who is also a change optimist will just accept and trust in the universe that this was supposed to happen.We have all heard the saying every cloud has a silver lining! or as one door closes another one opens.The key is not to always look for new horizons but to see the horizons in front of us with NEW eyes.Principle 3 - The Change Muscle This come back to the list or your change resume that I asked you do a moment a go.You are much stronger, much smarter, and much more intuitive than you have ever been told.You are more resilient and more powerful.Once you truly know and believe this, you will be able to get through any change- even the hardest one you can imagine.You already have a collection of change stored inside you, that you can draw strength from when times seem tough.Principle 4 - Change Demons The term Change Demons refers to all those negative emotions that get in the way when our guard is down.Demons such as 'fear, blame, doubt, shame, guilt' - These are natural feelings that make us human, but by being positive and more conscious to our emotions we can change these demons to emotions such as, 'can do, trust, faith, embrace,' Negative emotions can stall us, making change harder, while the positive ones can help us move through a change in a simpler, quicker, and more conscious way.Principle 5 - The Gift of Acceptance This is simply learning to flow with lifes path, learning to go with the flow, instead of clinging to the old and familiar.People who learn to accept change quickly will get though change much easier and with less resistance.Principle 6 - Change Control Change is going to happen to us all whether we are happy about it or not.But there are certain parts of our human make-up that we can always control.This includes our language, the words we use to describe an experience.Or the questions we ask to empower ourselves.Being able to control our thoughts is one of the most powerful elements to being truly positive and successful.Principle 7 - Connecting with your Spiritual Side People who are naturally good at change also believe that they are part of something far greater than themselves.They are people who can connect to something deep inside, the soul.By connecting to your soul, God or Allah you will be able to make change happen in a much more positive and empowering way.Principle 8 - Your Support Team People that are good at change, will reach out to like minded people, who are going through the same thing, or trying to achieve the same goals.They will connect with people in groups, online, in forums, through social media, through blogs and they will draw strength from getting through change collectively.Successful change optimists will find people with the same beliefs and values, or with people that have the skills and knowledge they need to also be successful.Principle 9 - Taking Action People who successfully navigate change will take action.They will have a plan and know where they want to go.Actions come in many forms.Some are big and obvious; some are so small you may think they are irrelevant.But any good action you take is a choice to move forward.Doing actions little and often will always take you forward positively through change.
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